Shortly before the coronavirus lockdown, I got a lot of complaints from my family members about my body; how lean and sickly I looked.
They kept mounting pressure on me to gain some weight (or, like they often say it, “get fat”). I remember sharing several of the screenshots from their chats on my story. So, I decided to bow to the pressure and add up a bit.
I did good on my promise, to the point I began feeling overweight. And on one of my trips to the hospital some weeks ago, I had to ask the nurse about my weight, and it was indeed much.
So, I decided I was going to cut it down a bit. I had a target range. Two weeks later, while yet on another hospital visit, I checked, 15kg (33 pounds) gone. It felt good.
Now, I’m not really here to tell you about me and my weight-loss and weight-gain play, but I’m driving at something.
You see, almost everyone desires so much to control others. We often struggle to lead others and be people of influence.
But one thing many people haven’t realised is that the greatest form of leadership is LEADING ONE’S SELF. Yes, the biggest form of control you can have as a person is SELF-CONTROL.
It is easy to control others and tell them what to do, but very tough to control our own selves. This is why many powerful men and women in history have been subdued by some seemingly silly emotion, addiction, or ‘little mistake’ due to a personal weakness.
The thing with me and my body started many years ago when I got tired of being scorned by my peers because of how fat I was.
I know the initial motivation was wrong, but it birthed in me a desire to have strong control over myself; my body, my desires, my actions, my words, etc.
Some people think I’m unemotional. But that’s not true. I might just be one of the most emotional persons you know, but the reason why it doesn’t seem so is because of self-control.
I remember back in 2011 when a doctor asked me to stay away from soda for one week after I made a complaint about my health. Brethren, that was the end of soda for me.
I make tough decisions and strive to keep to them, especially regarding my appetite. Sometimes, I even do these things for fun.
Recently, I stopped eating white bread in favour of whole wheat bread. I’ve also switched to whole wheat for my swallow. No sugars. Boiled eggs will always be preferred to fried ones. After a particular time of the night, no more food (dinner is usually 6:00 pm).
As I said, this isn’t so much about weight loss and stuff… it’s about being in control of yourself and managing yourself. It’s about making those tough decisions and sticking with them, even when it doesn’t feel sweet.
Some people have been told by doctors to stop eating or doing certain things, but they keep eating/doing them. We lie to ourselves that we can’t help it. We deceive ourselves when we say we can’t control certain things about us.
Whether it’s food, sex and sexual addictions, poor financial habits, inconsistency in what you do, exercise, gossiping or other negative speaking, etc., you can and should learn to control yourself.
It is possible if you choose to do it.